Life isn't about keeping score. It isn't about how many friends you have or how excepted you are, not about if you have plans this weekend or if you're alone. It isn't about who you are dating, who you used to date, and how many people you've dated, or if you haven't been with anyone at all.

It isn't about who you've kissed. It's not about sex. It isn't about who your family is or how much money they have or what kind of car you drive, or where you go to school. It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are, or what kind of music you listen to. It's not about if your hair is blonde, red, black, or brown or if your skin is too light or too dark.

Not about what grades you get, how smart you are, how smart everybody else thinks you are, or how smart standardized tests say you are. It's not about what clubs you're in or how good you are at "your sport." It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will "accept the written you."

But life is about who you love and who you hurt. It's about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully. It's about keeping or betraying trust. It's about friendship, used as a sanctity or as a weapon. It's about what you say and mean, maybe hurtful or heartening. About starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip. It's about what judgments you pass and why, and who your judgments are spread to. It's about who you've ignored with full control and intention. It's about jealousy, fear, ignorance, and revenge.

But most of all, it's about using your life to touch or poison other people's hearts in such a way that could have never occurred alone.

Only you choose the way those hearts are affected, and those choices are what life's all about.